and dont forget life is a stinky bitch, you call your friend in your house and he happened to be one of your wifes exes. Humans have emotions. Is this maths answer correct for probability? Men and women are different. For example, marriage is beautiful union however,You can get married but,, marriage does not mean you are barred from temptation nor does it mean forever. deep. Take that Woman, Do as I say and not as I do double standard mindset and flush it down the toilet! I just don't think hook-up culture will help me become the best version of myself. Look stephan r watever ur name is.. it DOES matters and you sitting behind a damn screen debating with tha whole world on tha number of men a women sleeps with shouldnt matter when in reality it does in todays world. If you did respect her, you wouldn't really be having this conversation, would you? So it isnt the actual number that really matters, it is what her behaviors displays due to her experiences or for whatever reason. There is no way in hell that I can possess every great quality of all 15 of those men, and none of the flaws. To be patient with you and It's also possible she has a crazy high libido, which if you build a commited relationship, can really come in handy when you start getting older and other men are in the "dead bedroom" phase, because they wanted to marry a virgin, who happened to have a very low libido, which made it easy for them to stay a virgin. oh,stacy,you live and learn.bigger fish too fry. The man is going to think that the woman might not We told the truth and we understood each other. Too many people use the fact that this woman has slept with a certain number a men that they personally deem too high as validation to dismiss this woman as a potential mate or a future great wife. Religions throughout the world encourage multiplying.and theyre not talking about the female having many children. 3) Psychological and Emotional problems (Most of the time promiscuous people are wildly insecure about themselves and or bad judges of character) During one of those sex talks, it was revealed that she had been with TWO GUYS at one time for a total of three encounters (about a month before we met). I KNOW that I am not missing out on anything. We're sinning again by lying! I can only hope altamera74 read your reply. Sure, they can lie but I have always found the real number later and left them. My life was so hard because of my sexual freedom so I want her life to be much easier than mine and easier would be for me to teach her to not express her sexuality and to just hold out as long as possible. Not really. Hello Stephen I think we should all face reality In addition, the divorce rate in my country of Canada is lower than it is in the US, and we have a more sexually permissive culture as well. Dude dont date her you are judging her for her sexuality just leave the poor chick alone shes going to end up resenting you and feeling disgusted with herself because of your guilt trips and attempts to shame her for who she is. Doctor lady walks up and says hey it has been forever how are you. I until recently had felt like i had to end it with her, but as you said i am taking it one day at a time because i love her and she is a good person that had a shitty hand dealt to her. I mean how hard can it be? You can probably answer that. I am the type that wants to get to know a women before I date her. People are simply not willing to marry unless they are certain that the person they are marrying is compatible.. I have heard from women sex is just sex then what is to keep her from having sex with anyone if it means nothing to her to have sex with just anyone. Obsessed much? When I met a man that claimed to have slept with 150+ women and a woman that slept with 50+ men, its no wonder we have broken families, stds, and little girls like Amber Cole becoming prevalent. JOGOS DE HOJE. Respect the choices shes made with her own body, respect the decisions that led her to where she is now. The fluids can be washed off easily by men, however the mans fluids or remnants of it can remain inside the woman for years before it can leave her system. People please keep in mind, God made Average for a reason. At the end of the day we all have to decide what is most important. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. Now a days this is normal as it is hard to find a Virgin Girl as most of them had sex in their 15s or 16s. I do agree that this topic deserves a lot of attention because I think people on both sides of the arguement have something positive they can learn or take away from this. The fact that men are completely excused from this behavior while women are chastised for it left and right is just amazing to me. So I have to make the decision..do I want her after the wear and tear of 200 men?? Its not unusual for women in my age bracket (53) to have had 100 men! Which will deter women from not being the innocent virgin that so many men desired. And if he is, so what? I actually thought it was clever. But hey, it is what it is. would sleep with them while single. Men like having a feeling of conquering and powerlessness. I agree totally. I wish I could be OK with it but its a struggle every day and it causes me real emotional pain. Hell to some if you arent a virgin you are a whore. business trips while Jerry came over and played house with mommy, a If she has habits of responding to one night stands, chances are she will give into temptation when your back is turned. As sad as it seems, the fact is CERTAIN Men sleep with tons of Women, and many Women sleep if lots of Men. early whether you are worth an investment (remember the biological urge Youre doing the right thing, love beats all just think how you would feel looking back at now when youre on your death bed about to pass onto the other realm. Today, the women are the same. Think about this. So, wat about da age do it matter? Even in cases where there was once a connection, it is in my opinion that the inability to stay connected comes from a lack of effective communication. Can it work out with an ex a bit further down the line? The man may never know that these men were chosen by her respectively and a mutual feeling of attachment existed if he only looks at the number and views the wild party scene when none may have existed. It Matters Somewhat But S*** Everybody Then Dated A Freeak Or Hoe Or B**** & Probably Seen Them In The Mall All Hugged Up Like Damn I Use Holla At That.We Grown Now Sometimes People Change.!!! Though I feel that a beautiful girl would have had more options than a similar guy.so I personally won't judge her on that. Thats gross!!! You can believe what you wish, and if this works for you my friend then by all means continue as you are. ) Now i Can see why many of us Good Guys Cant meet a Good woman anymore today. so much more than women!! it. For example, if your I completely understand where you are coming from and I do believe in discussing a persons past. To me in some case it shouldnt matter because everyone has had their wild period, but at the same time you dont want a person where everywhere you go folks are like, YoI hit that I dont care who you are, that hits home and you start to question your choice in boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife. So I completely understand where you are coming from and again I think it is a very good arguement. You should have an idea that its not a good look. Sex is purely pleasing, its not emotional for me. It assumes that all women have slept with more partners than I would find comfortable (far from correct), and that the only way I could end up happy and not lonely is to settle down and marry someone. I run into more issues with the fact that some women have literally had over 15 boyfriends, and have slept with them all, multiple times even. People shouldnt be so quick to judge others. I recommend a highly-qualified psychiatrist. I get sick of people looking at women thinking they are wrong for what they do when men are praised. As long as you're both safe and clean, what's the harm? But they dont.because they KNOW sluts dont make good wives so men wont pick them.well.the smart men wont. In a romantic sense any woman who sleeps around is unattractive to me. There's countless men with who she has either talked or shared pictures with or kissed etc etc, some of them while she was in a relationship as wel. They almost always act differently then those who havent. I completely understand where you are coming from. Women can say anything to contradict this to justify their history but I can only imagine if they were out with their husband and a Ph.D. Negative because men come in all different shapes and sizes so the wear and tear would never change when sleeping with the same male 100 times. The First and the Last. I agree with you. If youre honest more than likely you wouldnt. I think how many sex partners you have had should matter. All in all I just dont feel we should be looking at the amount of men she has slept with in the past as evidence for if she is someone to be with. You may not mind to share your life with someone who has share herself with everyone who show some interest but for me it is very a very important detail as it is part of the whole person you arechoosing since I have that capacity of choice I want to have a nice person as a whole including a matching in our values personally I am sure I would not go ahead with a woman with this kind ofbaggage. You better believe you can be loved and your are loved : ). Though neither worked out I had two completely different experiences. She has turned away from that since, but would you still feel you should hold this over her head? This is still me Sex is something that should be valued. No ones fully mature in their 20s. I could go on forever but Ill stop here. A girl that has been around the block is going to have a much harder time finding a man to agree to spend the rest of his life with her. Not saying that is ok and right, just pointing that out. So a man can use that as a measuring stick all he wants, but the reality is he may forever be getting false data. And if I never read this post again and some young man is dealing with the same situation. So to simply go off of the number is in my opinion a misguided approach to understanding the person you are dealing with. Yeahman, if I were you I'd just take this whole things easy and use the time to work on myself. Well I ask you one thing WHO GIVES UP THE HOLE. Some religions cut off womens sensitive parts so that she will NOT experience pleasure. Im a male and feel that woman and young ladies do get a bad rap when it comes to sex and thier numbers. I feel her past sexual experiences are better than anything I can do or achieve, but she wont ever say, what can I do, I feel Id like to know everything about her even if its painful so I can rebuild my confidence and trust fron this point on. If you love the chick it doesnt matter. Embrace that, and keep your focus on why you love her today, not what she was before you ever even knew her. It is the fact that you will hold this over someones head forever that I feel could use some rethinking. It tells men to be skinny jean wearing pussies (the opposite of what women really want) and women to be whores and sluts (who no man will ever commit to). If a woman is still behaving in a way you dont agree with then by all means keep it moving. Press J to jump to the feed. He walked away. Sorry, bro. Theres a dirty shaming name for women whove had volumes of sex but only recently has there been a label for men that also have many sexual experiences with many partners. Ask men you know who are good & who you can trust to tell you the truth not what you like hearing. Can you label them accurately? Now does that change your perspective? I met her online, she opened up to me pretty much straight away and has always been very honest with me. We are called to Love, but how can we do that if we allow ourselves to judge and demonize others for their past decisions. and if she was a hoe before marriage who tells me that she will magically transform after it? If you want to examine the paper, look it up yourself. That being said, if they are not willing to work this Here, we have a beautiful quiz for you. Theres timing to all things, even discussion about lovers. Okay Its cute (from the human perspective) and very fairytale like to add such insertions that we should not judge, but that is very delusional and REALITY makes a great point of it every single day! Once you find the right Man, cover him with COCHIE JUICE, give him more than he can handle. Dont be fooled by the celebrity divorces which seem quick and fast. However, all else being equal, women with more sexual partners are more likely to undergo a failed marriage. If you cant get in or she cant handle it can mess up the whole experience. HOLD ON TO THE SPIRIT OF JESUS CHRIST. You think people are using condoms at a high ratenope. Thus conconcluding in divorce. Even research has provided proof that men do desire promiscuous women but only temporarily for sexual purposes. Not all relationships were meant to last. I'm trying to reflect on it and I'm going to bring it up to my therapist but things are moving fast and I won't see my therapist for a week from today. Its not like they grew up thinking they will screw as many guys as they can, get married, and live happily ever after. Folks need to grow up and kill all the judgement as if they are walking perfection. 3 Risk Factors For Women Who Sleep Around Having Unattached Sex If the actions belie the words, go with the actions. 21. Marry the person who you want to be with for the rest of your life. Who has moved forward and disregarded her past. A woman who doesn't want a short, fat, or socially awkward man can just come right out and say it, but a man is often shamed for being truthful about his preferences. Im female, but Im not emotional, insecure or needy. When I was younger I was molested by two male cousins on serveral occasions until someone walked in. If someone says he has slept with 100 women, who is sleeping around more, the Men or the Women? Its not about allowing women to act similar to men, but simply to not judge women who may have had a promiscuous past. He already feels guilty and deeply regrets disappointing you. When we dont heal from our past and address our issues we will likely set ourselves up fro more problems later. behavior about those numbers. All that energy goes to personal projects or commuter games. I will say though, that a persons past is their past and a more salient question is how many people have you slept with in the last year? or what is your attitude to sex right now?. Well, I am going to speak from experience here. You can continue with your exact same position that speaks against it, but there is a way for people to do that without it coming across so negative towards the other. The problems with childbirth grow exponentially by year I do have a job and a life. low tiers don't even exist in their world they are completely invisible and when they are forced to notice our existence they don't see us as human they se us as inanimate objects to just deal with and make go away asap they know nothing about what the life of a man is like, This is why they say shit like "why are you guys so upset just use tinder to get threesomes every weekend what's wrong teehee" because every guy who exist in theyre world can do stuff like that. The Era of female double standards is drawing to a close. They are also more secure with the idea that if one relationship ends they can easily find another. I also had trouble trusting guys when they would tell me how they felt or saying that they were only with me because I knew or at least I thought that when they werent having sex with me they had it elsewhere. That is all this article is trying to relay. 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